Aunty May brings you, Emo is Just a Word.
Aunty may might be old. But auntie knows alot.. what teenager everyday would be going through. Today, i will tell you, being emo is just a word, not a lifestyle, not something to prolong.
Kids today, very dramatic. Every decision is life or death. Everything you do, go late for movies already like dying.. but now, i am not talking about that, but breaking up.. how do you get over it, how to stand up back on your two feet and not fall and never get back up.
So, first of all, its very simple. make sure the break up is clean. so clean, there is no stains left that remind you of your ex. Do not say lets be friends.As tempting as it is, if you are still in love with your EX, and he or she doesn’t reciprocate the feelings and intensity, then you’re better off making a clean break, if not damn hurt. I call this Emo-Rehab.
Dun ever think that if you are friends, you can get back! not to say it never happen, but honestly, it seldom happens. not a chance, she break off for a reason, and that reason will stick to her like a shadow and everytime she prolly wants to think of going back with you, it will remind her what happened and why the break up.
But if you very presistence to be friends, make sure there are ground rules. So you guys must know that what happened in the past is the past and not allow any room to talk about it. make sure you both won’t be alone.
whats best is that you tell her you still care about her and then lay off.. rather than seeing her going out with people you always doubt or doing things that might displease you. Just lay it off until you are certain that there are no more feelings.. then resume the freindship, she she still thinks you’re a friend.
So, after the emo rehab, you got to do the things you should be doing. No more calls, no more late night calls, no more i miss you or i can’t sleep. Make sure you have your friends with you when you are in this phase- lost in love.
This is when you feel so lost, not knowing what to do, not knowing where you belong. You are in a pitch dark hole, not knowing where it will lead you to. You gotto remove it all. Her msn, e-mail, her facebook, freindster, tweeter, and ultimately again, her phone number. You might know it by heart, but still, knowing you have it removed, its a stepping stone.
With that, fill your time with other things. Do not allow emo-neess to come it, it eventually will find its way in, but hey, you have your friends. They would be supportive and not see you down. Take a breath. Its time to think about the future. Its time to wake up. So dun be down for too long.
Now coming to the 3rd stage (Richie/Hilton), start to spoil yourself. Be a Nicole Richie or a Paris Hilton. love yourself for who you are. Take pride in what you do and most importantly, believe that this break up is for the better. You now know, she won’t be there to control, nor will she allow you to keep calling her. Go out and have fun!!! Get things for yourself. Go for a massage, thats what i always say.
now, is you managed to get through it all, start to take charge of your own life. Be the captain of the ship and HEY, DO NOT SWIM BACK!!!!! sing a song and be happy!!!! you are your own boss now!! you are now in charge!!!! when you’re ready, get back on the market and sell yourself. 🙂
ps, sports is a good way, healthy way of getting out in a relationship 🙂
TUT TUT!!!
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